Monday, November 18, 2019
6 things that will make you sound clueless at work
6 things that will make you sound clueless at work 6 things that will make you sound clueless at work In general, itâs smart to say what you mean. In the workplace, people tend to use overwrought business jargon to compensate for not knowing their stuff. But thereâs a less-apparent risk to doing just the reverse. If you sound like a walking Instagram comment, you might start to alienate yourself in your own office and lose your coworkersâ trust - even if they use those same kinds of words expressions when theyâre texting their roommates.Some terms and phrases are best left to casual exchanges with friends and family. Here are a few you probably shouldnât let creep into your office vocabulary.1. âNo problemâI know - what could possibly be wrong with this one? Itâs so innocuous, right? Youâre asked to photocopy a document or put together a meeting agenda. Easy enough. âNo problem,â you reply.The expression comes up in all kinds of business environments, and the tone is often chipper and upbeat, so you donât give a second thought to using it periodically. Few p eople who hear âno problemâ take it literally, but at a level just beneath consciousness awareness, it telegraphs an underhanded resentment. The speaker implies the possibility that somebody has created an issue that theyâre willing to let slide.Itâs not the (nearly absurd) risk of a literal misinterpretation that you should guard against, though. Itâs the likelihood that youâll default to âno problemâ when presented with tasks you consider menial- giving directions, taking minutes, photocopying, wrapping a package, or stepping out of someoneâs way in an elevator - and unconsciously show your annoyance with them (including nonverbally).Related: Four Words And Phrases To Avoid When Youâre Trying To Sound ConfidentChances are you wonât say âno problemâ when your supervisor asks you to prepare an important report or assigns you some other significant task. When a work duty carries more weight, youâre more likely to ask smart questions about what itâll ta ke to do it right, convey your enthusiasm, and declare that youâre up to the task. But shouldnât you try to be seen as the person who approaches all your work that way? Scrap âno problemâ - it isnât helping you show your best side. (And after all, itâs a double negative.)2. âWhateverâLike âno problem,â this word usually has a flippant tone to it, but thatâs not the main downside to using it. âWhateverâ is often used to dismiss another personâs idea. If I say, âSure, whatever!â after somebody has offered a suggestion, I might think Iâm just saying I donât mind one way or the other - kind of like, âdoesnât matter to me, go for it!â But it wonât always come across that supportively.Instead, it might signal that I disagree but will go along with it anyway - maybe because I donât have the power or the initiative to convince my colleagues otherwise, or maybe just because Iâve got a martyr complex.âWhateverâ denotes resentful resignati on, even if it doesnât sound that way to your own ears. Much the same is true of other tepid notes of assent, like âyeah,â âyup,â âsure,â and âfine.â Use these words with your friends, but not in professional settings where the stakes are fundamentally different.3. âIt is what it isâClichés like this make you sound like a lazy thinker. We default unthinkingly to empty expressions when weâre trying to give the impression we have something to say but really donât, and also when we want to sound as though weâre comfortable with something but might not be.âBusiness is business,â âit is what it is,â and phrases like them arenât just meaningless and repetitious - they sound like you donât really care or that your brain just isnât in gear. Good luck getting promoted that way.4. âPissed offâThis expression is heard around the office more commonly than you might think, and even when the speaker is referring to how somebody else is feeling, it s till reflects badly on them. Saying âIâm pissed off that I didnât get that vacation timeâ makes you sound angry and uncooperative - that much is obvious.But if you say âshe was really pissed off after that meeting,â referring to your boss, youâre subtly expressing a criticism of her (even if you think she had every right to be furious!). Likewise, if you remark, âI think I pissed off Doug yesterday,â youâre basically confessing that you canât get along with others (even if you think Doug was in the wrong!).From just about every angle, this expression doesnât work in your favor. Yes, people in your office - including you - are going to get upset from time to time. That much is natural. But how you speak about those breakdowns in collaboration should be more, well, collaborative. That goes for email, too, by the way.Related: Six Ways To Write Emails That Donât Make People Silently Resent You5. âCanâtâTo be fair, you canât get away with never sayin g âcanâtâ - itâs just too common and useful a contraction - and Iâm not suggesting you try. But it is smart to be on you guard for the contexts where you use it.For example, you might innocently say at a meeting, âI canât get that report to you until next Monday.â And fine, maybe you really canât because it just isnât feasible. But phrasing it like this makes you sound ineffective- like the person who disappoints. Why not flip it around and say what you can do instead? âIâll have that report to you next Monday.â There - suddenly youâre somebody who delivers, and is helpfully realistic about timelines to boot.Try to avoid âdonâtâ in similar situations. Rather than saying, âI donât know what the solution is,â go with, âLetâs go over what some possible solutions might look like - I could really use some input.â Then youâll sound bright and collegial.6. âHopeâHereâs another perfectly innocuous word that can sound defeatist and pa ssive (or even passive aggressive) around the office if you arenât careful. In some contexts, it can make you sound less than confident. For example, if you say, âI hope weâll meet our sales target,â youâre really planting the opposite idea - the possibility that you may not.Obviously, that possibility is real and may even be one that you want to impress upon your team in order so they know what the stakes are. But then why not just say, âI really want us to meet our sales target, and I know we can get thereâ?Similarly, âI hope our team can agree on a planâ sounds like you donât exactly see how youâll manage to. Instead, just say, âWe expect to hammer out a planâ or âweâre committed to coming up with something everybody agrees on.â Even if you might not actually be confident thatâll happen, you should probably refrain from showing it.No matter what, people invariably draw impressions of us based on the words we say. And by the very nature of langua ge, those infinite shades of interpretation are impossible to control. But itâs still possible to avoid the expressions that may impart resentment, resignation, or a lack of commitment that you might not even actually feel.Avoid these six words and phrases and youâll start to sound just a little more collegial and confident. In the workplace especially, a little often goes a long way.This article originally appeared on Fast Company.
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